The Importance of Belonging: Community vs. Support & How to Make it Happen

The Crisses

On YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W4ZP0bzX0ps&t=1s

Sunday, July 17, 2022

TW: This session will mention shame, exile, retraumatization, and discuss where inclusion versus gatekeeping are important factors to consider in creating communities of different types and sizes. Mild cursing.

Belonging is a need, it's not negotiable. The overall plural community is spread out, fractured with arguments about how "support spaces" need to be gatekept and protected so that traumatized or traumagenic systems can get support. Exclusion criteria in certain sections of the community continue to grow, more individuals being excluded or pushed out of communities, and the result is retraumatizing people who desperately need safer community spaces. What is "community" really? What do we need from different types of gathering spaces? How can we think about our community spaces going forward so we can collaborate on making changes and a bigger difference for plurals everywhere while also getting our needs for more security in spaces where we can share more about ourselves authentically?


Bio

The Crisses

They/them/their, https://crisses.org

The Crisses are an autistic, disabled, non-binary, gender-fluid, plural-identified quoigenic DID-diagnosed polyfragmented modular system with about 157+ system members of a wide variety of types. They are geeks, authors, content creators, instructors, healers, coaches, and mental health advocates. They have hEDS, CIDP, Reynaud’s syndrome, several other related issues, and are transition opportunists. They live in upstate New York in the USA, and moonlight as a pet sitter.

Aliessa of Crisses is our "elected" core. She's a centuries-old but still tree-young dryad who believes that love wins out over everything. She's our heart, inspiration, and one of our most adored headmates.

Almerissa of Crisses is a system protector, the first known system introject to front, and is mainly in charge of internal landscaping in our system.

Buck of Crisses, a cis-male protector and former internal persecutor, is willing to throw his privilege around and make waves to open doors for those with less access and privilege, and has been taking a leadership role in the Crisses’ advocacy and activism efforts.

Chrissy of Crisses is one of our deeper manager residents who can help connect people for internal communication and conduits.

Dreal of Crisses is one of their crew of healers, a shamanic & reiki practitioner, and trained life coach.

Faun of Crisses, Buck’s twin sister, as far as we know was born to this body and created our derivation maps, having been around for a very long time.

Justin of Crisses is a joker of all trades, doesn''t seem to take much seriously except the things he does, and has a rule of poking fun at himself or inanimate objects (often talking to them and asking them to please stay put), not people.

Moonlite of Crisses, deaf and mute, takes the role of an internal self-helper, speaks American Sign Language (ASL) as a second language, writes, and works with Chrissy, Star & Dreal on self-help materials.

Star of Crisses is another healer, a wise woman herbalist, reiki practitioner, and life coach as well as one of the first people to appear in the Crisses’ system.

Plural system hub: https://crisses.org